This mom has separation anxiety!

For many parents, separation anxiety is a big concern - you know, the behaviour which involves the child clinging on to you and refusing to let go? Okay, maybe that's dramatizing it, but that's exactly what it feels like when you are trying to take a shower or eat dinner. Little Dude has spent most of his time with me, and I am what you can call an advocate of natural/attachment parenting, so he definitely has separation anxiety. I'm just waiting for him to grow out of it, simply because I'm not in a hurry to do anything else.

Anyhow, what I've observed more recently is that I am the one with an acute case of separation anxiety.
He's started spending more time away from me, when he goes out to play with his Dad for instance, and then I start missing him! This is probably odd, because most of the time I think of getting those fifteen minutes of 'me time', but when I have them, I'm a bit lonely.

I've never really spent any time away from him, and really don't have an inclination either. I never wanted a maid to care for him and I wanted to be there for every moment. After all, they do grow up fast and he'll never be so little again!

I don't know how I will cope with Little Dude starting school and generally, getting on with his life. But it's not like I am going to hold him back! I'll be proud to see him go out in the big world and carve a place for himself. And I'll always be there behind him, even if he doesn't notice. That's what we are here for, right?

I wonder how many moms/dads feel this way? Do they feel more anxious about being away from their children than the kids themselves?

(Pic: Child In The Meadow by George Hodan)
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Unknown said...

It's like your took the words right out of my head. Totally relatable

Tarana Khan said...

Ah, so I'm not the only one with this condition!

Anonymous said...

As a single mum I actually crave the opposite - sometimes I just need time off from Moo! Occasionally she will go and stay with her dad for a few days and I recharge my batteries. But obviously I miss her like crazy. I think what you're feeling is totally normal, it's all to do with them growing up and not 'needing' us so much any more, right? *sob*

Tarana Khan said...

I understand! They really do grow up fast. I can see that everyday!

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