Toddler Tales (15): An Identity

The process of comprehending their identity is a long-drawn one in children. I think it has four stages. First, when they are mere infants and at some point realize that the baby looking back in the mirror is themselves! Second, when they are babies and respond to their name being called or even to something like 'honey boo'! Third, when they they know they are a separate person and don't always have to do what others tell them. This is, of course, a very trying stage for parents. But it is also the stage where toddlers begin to carve out an identity that they will be using until they learn to introspect and ponder over life's secrets. The fourth stage is when they understand their identity in relation to others. Not just their family, but playmates and authority figures (such as school teachers). Little Dude is still at the third stage, but a happy moment has finally come - he can say his name!  I didn't expect it to happen this soon because we've picked a name that is unique and not easy to remember for many adults. Some even find it hard to pronounce, but not my little boy! He's been saying it over and over again, and I must say that the credit goes partially to his Dad, who's been keen on hearing him say it. So, when earlier he used to refer to himself as 'me' or our Hindi language equivalent, he now says his name. He also wants to do everything by himself now and is able to communicate this to us very clearly! I believe all children go through this phase of overt independence and I'm giving Little Dude a free reign, except when he gets too adventurous. It's really a pleasure, though, hearing the house resound with his name all the time!

This post has been linked to Magic Moments and Wot So Funee blog hops. I've also linked it to Small Steps Amazing Achievements.

(Toddler Tales are snippets of what I'm learning every day from my little one.)
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Jenny at The Brick Castle said...

I love that stage. All of mine are beyond it now, but my youngest still refers to himself by name, especially when he's upset, and it always makes me smile :)

Unknown said...

awww bless. It all goes by so quickly before you know it he'll be talking all the time just like my boy that never stops!

Jaime Oliver said...

yay well done little Dude! i so love this age of understanding and the fact that they really are little sponges.

thank you for linking up with #MagicMoments

Gina Jacobs Thomas said...

It's a great stage! My kids are at the egoic stage of "I'm right, therefore I need to prove everyone wrong", which isn't as cute as the one your son is in. Enjoy this sweet time...

Tarana Khan said...

It sounds really cute when they refer to themselves in third person!

Tarana Khan said...

I'm kind of waiting for that!

Tarana Khan said...

Thank you for stopping by!

Tarana Khan said...

Ha, I love that line! Thank you!

Anonymous said...

We're still at stage three which is definitely trying at times but it's all good fun especially when they give you rewards such as learning to say their name :)

Tarana Khan said...

It's amazing, really! Thanks for stopping by.

sarah said...

aw love that stage, its such an exciting time

Actually Mummy... said...

He sounds lovely - enjoy him!

mumturnedmom said...

Oh, how lovely! It is a wonderful moment x

Unknown said...

This is fantastic, I have never really thought about the stages before. I think we are on stage two.

Thanks for linking up with Small Steps Amazing Achievements :0)

Tarana Khan said...

They're just my observations, really! Thank you for stopping by.

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