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Dos & Don'ts of parenting, by a toddler

Hi! My mom usually does the writing on this blog, and I see that she likes to talk a lot about parenting. It's all thanks to me, by the way! Anyway, today I'm taking over to give some parenting advice too. It seems that we toddlers baffle all of humanity, so I'll give you some ideas on how you should approach us.
- Little Dude

Parenting dos and don'ts from a toddler

Don't:


  • Tell us what to do. I don't like being ordered around like I'm dumb or something. We toddlers are actually pretty smart, and if you want us to comply, you will have to say it nicely. More importantly, don't tell us what not to do, or you can be pretty sure we'll accept your challenge.
  • Speak to us in baby talk. I may not be able to verbalise my thoughts correctly, but that doesn't mean I'm a baby, for God's sake! I know exactly what you are saying, so don't try to be all babyish with me. And especially, don't laugh when I can't get a word right. You're going to miss that cute talk one day!
  • Ask us what we want to eat. If you ask me, I'm just going to tell you what comes first to my mind (like porridge!). Don't blame me 20 minutes later when you've made it, and I don't feel like eating it anymore. I may have well changed my mind, and what else do you expect from someone for whom 20 minutes is an eternity?
  • Confuse us. It's really confusing when you tell me one minute that I'm too young for something, and another minute that I'm not so little anymore! Make up your mind, because I like doing things my way, and I don't like this silly reasoning.
  • Expect logical reasoning. Don't expect me to think like you. What may seem wrong to you is probably a lot of fun for me. So, when you tell me to stop jumping on the bed, I don't see the logic in your argument, and will probably ignore you. If you want me to listen, give me a good reason to, in words I understand.


Do:


  • Play, a lot. It would be awesome if you would just stop worrying about bath time or meal time, and let me play! The best thing to do would be to drop everything and get down and play with me. You see, that's the most important task of the day for me.
  • Give more hugs. It's hard enough to get your attention with that stupid phone beeping all the time. So, just put that away once in a while, and instead of asking me to give you a minute, how about giving me a hug? Do it while I still like it.
  • Let us get messy. You can't control my messiness. If you want me to play naturally, don't think I can do it within your prescribed boundaries. We like to experiment, especially when playing, so let us have a go instead of following your Pinterest instructions.
  • Let us goof up. Try as you might, you really can't stop me from falling over, or smearing ink on my face (still wondering how I managed that?). It's useless to tell a toddler to be careful, because we don't want to! You can hang around if you like - just don't stop me from having my fun, and falling down while trying something new.
  • Follow our pace. Why are you always in a hurry? Why does everything have to be done now? You really need to slow down, because everything I see fascinates me. And I like taking my time to do things. If you followed my pace, maybe you'd be less stressed out too.


If you have any questions for me, I'd be happy to answer them below, on behalf of toddlers everywhere!


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historyofawoman.com said...

This is fabulous. I need one that explains preteen girls next. I think I spend more time trying not to offend my daughter than anything else.

Katie @ Pick Any Two said...

What a clever (and useful!) post, Little Dude! As the mother of a toddler, I appreciate you sharing your wisdom (and I'm sure my little guy does too). I especially love your point about getting messy, as I recently read a study showing that when kids are allowed to make a mess, they actually learn BETTER.

Tarana Khan said...

Haha, that's another story, isn't it?

Tarana Khan said...

Thank you, Katie! I agree about the mess :)

Kim Carberry said...

hahaha! Love it! What a clever post! Some very useful tips there :p

Katie Clark said...

This is brilliant - I love reading posts from the perspective of little ones. #ShareWithMe

Zena's Suitcase said...

Little Dude there are lessons here for Mum's everywhere. My little Princess says she wholeheartedly agrees with every point you've made and is glad her Mummy read this post #sharewithmelinky

Jenny Ripatti-Taylor said...

This is so cute! I love this post, thank you ever so much for linking up on SHARE WITH ME. As always I really enjoy reading your lovely post. This made me chuckle and nod in agreement that my son would totally agree with everything that's listed on do's and don'ts. Little Dude has made me realize I probably rush my kids around way too much all the time! Bless them. Thanks little dude. #sharewithme

wendy said...

I love the list of Do's and Don'ts so cute . Great post xx I think we all hurry the kids don't we ? I know I do especially getting ready for the school run .

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Broody Me said...

Very handy tips! #ShareWithMe

Vivek Baghel said...

Hi Tarana,
Very Nice & very easily explanation in this post, Which I seriously love it.

Alison Bloomer said...

Right - thanks dude. I understand now and this will change my life haha. Love it - he is gorgeous #sharewithme xx

Chai a Cup of Life said...

A very smart little dude indeed! I totally understand not to do the baby talk, I dislike when adults do that too! More play, allow to get messy. Got it, thank you :-)

Tarana Khan said...

Thank you, Kim!

Tarana Khan said...

Thank you, glad you liked this post!

Tarana Khan said...

Thank you, Jenny. Glad to have linked up!

Tarana Khan said...

Yes, we do hurry them a lot!

Tarana Khan said...

Thank you, Alison!

Tarana Khan said...

Thanks, Vivek!

Tarana Khan said...

I'm actually not good at the baby talk, it kind of embarrasses me!

Jennifer Humphries said...

Yes on the preteen one! Tarana such a sweet post and so true!

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The Reading Residence said...

Love this, a great post. The hugs, yes, we need to make the most of those while they're on offer!

Kate Williams said...

My three year old would tell you the same :) although you missed 'feed me chocolate every ten minites' which would have been on his list!

Tarana Khan said...

Yes, that's true!

Tarana Khan said...

Thanks, Jennifer, I hope someone who reads this picks up the idea for preteens!

KiddyCharts said...

Some great advice here...and I am pretty sure that my kids would tell me that this is what I SHOULD have done when they were at this age :-D

Michelle Ashmore said...

By child number 3 I finally managed to stop feeling the need to take over a craft project because she wasn't 'doing it right'. Now I can put the stuff out for messy/creative play and feel totally at ease with letting them work away, the way they want to. The finished result doesn't matter, even if it's a present for Grandma, what matters is they've made it themselves :)

Tarana Khan said...

Wise words there, Michelle! I should remember that to :)

Wicked World of Lucas said...

Great post. I made the mistake of asking Luca sonce what he wanted for breakfast. He requested Haribo Eggs on Toast! #sharewithme

Tarana Khan said...

Haha, that's exactly what I meant!

Vicky Myers said...

Great list:) toddler time is certainly a different pace:)

Kat said...

There is a lot of common sense here - what a smart toddler ;)

I always let my kids get as dirty as they wanted to; they explore their world by getting right into it. Sometimes that gets messy. I also never used "baby talk" with my kids. It makes me cringe when I hear other people do it.

Abigail said...

LittleDude and my LittleMiss think alike.

Tarana Khan said...

Thanks, Kat! I know he really likes getting messy, though it's a lot of work for me.

Tarana Khan said...

Toddlers United!

Franglaise Mummy said...

This is fantastic, and so true, we can learn a lot from the little dudes, I'll be referring back to this as our 16 month old approaches toddlerdom!
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Tarana Khan said...

Exciting times are coming for you then!

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