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Seven Life Lessons My Dad Taught Me

Father's Day is around the corner, but I don't need reminding that the most influential person in my life has been my father. He's the kind of Dad who teaches by setting an example, even though words of advice were also plentiful! Now that I am older, and perhaps a little wiser after becoming a mom, I realise that there's a lot of what I learned from him in me.

My Dad doesn't read my blog, because he isn't very comfortable using the computer. But I want to thank him by writing about all the important life lessons he taught me.

1. Being humble is a good thing

Humility is a virtue, especially in a time where all the focus is on ourselves. There's nothing wrong with talking about your achievements, but sometimes they speak for themselves. And praise is something best bestowed on a person by others. Dad never likes to draw attention to himself, but ironically, he's seen as a role model by many among our family and friends.

2. Always speak the truth

I just couldn't lie to him when I was a child. Dad made it look like there was simply no other option. Over time, this is one thing I have stuck to firmly. Lying is never a good idea. In the end, the truth always come out in the open.

3. Keep the faith

Human beings are fragile, and sometimes what we go through in life can seem too much to bear. Whether you do it through prayer or meditation or just quiet time, you need to offload your worries. Life isn't easy, but it's important to keep moving on, and being strong inside.

4. Silence speaks for itself

There are many things Dad doesn't say, but we always get the message. Sometimes, you don't need to say  things when you're not in the best of spirits. Being silent also gives you time to analyse your thoughts, and think before you speak.

5. Trust wisely

Dad doesn't trust people easily, but when he does, it's usually for a lifetime. Once those close to us have passed our 'trust tests', you should continue to keep that same level of trust. If it is ever broken, there's no going back. Keeping another person's trust is a quality that either people have or they don't. This may not hold true for everybody, but it's what I've seen in my life so far anyway.

6. Ask questions

Like every child, I asked a gazillion questions. And the thing about Dad is that he always encouraged me to ask more. He even answered every single one patiently. There are so many things I learned from our conversations.

7. Keep learning

He loves knowledge, and believes that one should always keep learning. Dad can handle almost any task around the house, and when he encounters something he can't, he makes sure he learns how. He has also picked up languages this way, and has applied this principle in almost every aspect of his life. That's how I like to do things too, although not as well as him!

I hope, one day, I can pass on what I learned from Dad on to Little Dude, because these are things no parenting book will tell you. And life doesn't come with a manual, so it's smart to start with a few lessons in hand. That's the best gift we can give our children.


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Laid Back Mum of 4 said...

What a lovely post and what a great dad you have! I am lucky too that I have a good relationship with my dad and have learnt a lot by his example x

Suzanne Whitton said...

This is a lovely read. I wrote something very similar today but rather '7 things my husband has taught me about parenting'! It's good to 'big up' the men in our lives for a change. Your dad sounds like a remarkable man and very worthy of your respect.

Tarana said...

Thank you! Good to know you have a great relationship with your Dad too :)

Tarana said...

Thank you, Suzanne! Can't wait to read your post, it sounds interesting :)

Merlinda Little said...

I wish I can say that I have the same father. But I don't. You are so blessed to have a father like him =) #pocolo

Janine Huldie said...

Seriously, wonderful post about your dad and hope at the very least you can read this to him. My dad actually read one this morning (he rarely reads my blog), but told me how much he couldn't stop smiling afterwards. I think your dad would totally have a similar reaction to yours if you read it to him now :)

Karen said...

those are great lessons and smart advice. I bet you and Little Dude are his joys

Kenya G. Johnson said...

I hope you'll print this up and sent to him because I think he would be very pleased to know all that you have learned from him. I especially like #3.

Kelly Mckenzie said...

He sounds a lot like my late father Tarana. My dad was Mr. Humble as well. He was an extraordinarily good listener who would rarely talk about his accomplishments. Almost like pulling teeth to get him to do so! As for your little guy well the fact that you are so aware of these wonderful qualities bodes well for him. He's one lucky little chap to have a mom like you.

Michelle Grewe said...

Amazing lessons learned from an amazing man. I think this is a post every man should read so they know the types of lessons that are truly important to pass down to their children. Love it. Sharing you.

Stephanie Sprenger said...

That was so touching- it sounds like he taught you some incredible values! You are lucky to have one another!

@katgrant30 said...

Great post! My dad taught me a lot too, but maybe not so much about humility...Humble, he is not! :). Enjoy Father's Day! #PoCoLo

Anna Fitfunner said...

"Keeping another person's trust is a quality that either people have or they don't." That is so true.

Great to see that you are so close to your Dad, and that he has been a positive influence on you.

Kristi Rieger Campbell said...

I love the lessons you've learned from your dad - especially the power of "saying" things silently. Happy Father's Day to him!

Tarana said...

Well Merlinda, inspirational people are everywhere. I hope you've found someone you can say influenced you for the good!

Tarana said...

Thanks, Janine! Great idea about reading it to him, maybe I'll do that :)

Tarana said...

I believe we are, thank you Karen!

Tarana said...

That's a great idea, Kenya!

Tarana said...

Thanks, Kelly! Yes, your Dad sounds a lot like mine. I really hope I can at least cultivate the patience my father has.

Tarana said...

Thank you for saying that, Michelle! It means a lot to me, and makes me even prouder that I have a Dad like I do.

Tarana said...

Thank you, Stephanie!

Charlotte said...

Fab post, has your dad seen it? I would love to write a post like this one day, my dad is my biggest supporter :) xx

Tarana said...

Thank you, Anna. I follow the same philosophy as him when it comes to trust.

Tarana said...

Thanks, Kristi. My Dad is a man of few words!

Tarana said...

That's a lovely compliment, Karmen!

Roshni Aamom said...

Lovely post for Father's day and for your dad, Tarana!

DannyUK said...

That's such a lovely post, and seven great things to remember. Sounds like words from a wise man! #PoCoLo

(Hope you don't mind me asking here. Have you seen the new #FamilyFriday link? - http://bit.ly/1vfrQa6 This post would fit in well there, too!)

Mike said...

My Dad, who I miss and still love with all my heart to this day, just was not blessed with knowing how to communicate to his son. Yet, he was a highly successful high school teacher for 30 years! When it came time for the "birds and bees" talk I asked him what did he need to know ha, ha! However, one thing DID stick with me. When I was making $4/hour as a kid he always taught me the first check to write each month was into savings. That later became a whole more per month :)

Tarana said...

Thank you, and go ahead and write one, Charlotte!

Tarana said...

All Dads are different, and like mine, he may have 'talked' to you by his actions. I'm sure that saving tip is something you still follow!

Tarana said...

Thank you, Danny! Thanks for the invite, heading over to link up :)

Ruchira Khanna said...

He sure has laid some beautiful and solid foundation for you Tarana :)


TGIF!

Katie said...

This is a great post, you certainly had a wonderful dad to grow up with. My dad worked such long hours to provide for us when I was younger. He was a good dad but our relationship was not as close as yours. Luckily now I am older we seem to be much closer which is nice. #FamilyFriday

Tarana said...

That's good to hear, Katie!

Steph @ Sisterhood and all tha said...

Lovely post - I love the 'solidness' of dad's like this. They don't have to say a lot, but what they do is so valuable. Mike is the same and I think we used to dismiss a lot of what he said, but now recognise it's usually wise/right now we're older! #PoCoLo

Steph said...

Mine not mike - who's mike?!

Tarana said...

Hehe! I think I've truly understood Dad's contributions to my life now that I'm older

Kristi - Finding Ninee said...

I loved reading this as much the second time around and so appreciate all of these. My dad, too, really encouraged questions and made us think about things. I can't remember how often he had us look things up in the encyclopedia!! And also sad that my son won't ever look anything up in anything other than Google.

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