Eight tips to thrive as a stay-at-home mom

Since I've always been a stay-at-home mom, I've been through it all. The fun, the exasperation, the boredom, and the self-questioning. Having a life focused on staying home may seem difficult to some, even inconceivable, but it has it's good moments too.

Being a stay-at-home mom is definitely not easy, and you can end up feeling a wide range of emotions, sometimes on the same day. There are times when you just want to give up, but realize there's no such option. But I that also describes much of motherhood, doesn't it?

The role of a stay-at-home mom requires some getting used to, especially if you were the epitome of ambition before you had kids. I was that kind of woman. My career was everything to me, and having kids was not on my list for the longest time. But I had also decided early on that when I did have kids, I would stay home with them. It's not that I didn't believe I could 'have it all' - I am one of those people who can only truly dedicate themselves in one direction.

As a new stay-at-home mom, I discovered quite a few things. For one, it's a lot of work - constantly. Two, you don't get any time off, sometimes even a lunch break. At least I used to get those at work! But then, I witnessed magic every day. I saw my son sit up without support, taste his first banana, and say his first word. Those moments are etched deeply in my mind, and I'm grateful for them. I'm grateful to have the choice of being with him all the time, because I know many moms don't.

One thing you need if you're a stay-at-home mom or plan to become one, is a strategy. It's very important to have things under control, or, frankly, you'll go crazy!

Tips to help you thrive at being a stay-at-home mother.

Here are my eight tips to not just survive, but thrive as a stay-at-home mom:

1. Have a routine

Even if you've never had one in your life, now's the time to set a routine. Unless you fix a time for everything that you need to get done, you won't get anything done. Your family can be involved in  working with your routine - whether by assisting you with tasks, or simply having their meals at set times.

2. Choose your priorities

When setting your routine, have your priorities in place. You certainly won't be able to get everything done as you would like to without breaking down. Choose what's more important to you and your family, and what you can get away with not doing everyday. Every household is different, so your priorities may be unique. Just remember that you should assign higher importance to the tasks that really need to be done. Start from the top, and don't worry about what's left undone at the end of the day.

3. Grab some sleep

Your family deserves a well-rested mom. When I say grab some sleep, I mean it! Perfect the art of getting rest when you can, even if it is a power nap. This doesn't mean you will be any less sleep-deprived, but you will be less of a zombie on some days, and will be able to make better use of your thinking faculties.

4. Factor in your needs

Most moms find it impossible to get time for themselves. It's mainly because, when they set their priorities, they don't count themselves. Don't make that mistake! If you constantly put yourself last, you will eventually become irritable and frustrated. Everyone needs time to themselves. So, even if it means that your kids have a movie night once a week while you do what you like, go for it.

5. Meal planning helps

This is such a simple thing, yet it makes such a difference. Since I started planning our meals weekly, I actually feel relaxed, and I also shop more wisely on groceries. Having a meal plan as a guide makes one less thing for you to think about. Use technology to your advantage and use one of the many superb apps available for the purpose.

6. Keep track of finances

Even if you aren't the earning one, you still need to have a good grasp on your financial situation. Money can be a major clash point among couples with only one income, so sit down with your partner and make financial decisions together.

7. Have fun with the kids

Don't forget that being home means you're getting more precious time with the kids! Make the most of being home, and plan projects and outings together. Even if some things on your to-do list get left out, it's these memories that matter in the long run.

8. Go out!

Don't get too comfortable at home. Having some evenings out with friends or a date night with your spouse is something you totally deserve, and need. If nothing else, there are many great date nights ideas you can find for home, after the kids are in bed!

Making these changes in your life will make all the difference between being too exhausted to talk, to spending quality time with your family!

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Melissa Matters said...

Wonderful suggestions! I'm finding it's important to get more sleep so I can handle the day better.

Merlinda Little said...

This is me. Lots of days I feel that I am worthless as I am not contributing financially. Thanks for this. Really helps a lot. #pocolo

Kim Carberry said...

Fantastic advice.....I totally agree with getting out without the kids every now and again! It is all to easy to get bogged down with family life x

Tarana said...

Yes, sleep is so important, and we are always deprived of it!

Tarana said...

Happy to know you liked my post!

Tarana said...

That's right, it's great to go out once in a while!

Tim said...

Having done all of six days in one go, I am constantly amazed at how SAHMs cope and thrive. As I discovered, having a routine was definitely critical, especially when it came to getting three kids out of the door in the morning in time to deliver them to two different locations and try to get myself to work at the same time, and then to do the reverse in the late afternoon.

Laura Powell-Corbett said...

Being a SAHM was definitely the biggest adjustment I have done in my life, alongside actually moving to Dubai. Its so much easier out here as there are so many more SAHM than I found in London (where I wouldn't have had the opportunity!)

I love all of your tips, especially the making sure you get out the house. And I do have one of my own to add:

Don't get bogged down in the little household things, they are only little once, enjoy them, that's part of why you aren't working to mould them not to mop the floor.

#PoCoLo xxx

Victoria Welton said...

These are all GREAT tips - I wish I had had them when Grace was small as I think they help towards single parenting too. I hope to be able to use them in a different way in the future :) Thank you for linking to #PoCoLo x

Tarana said...

That's true, routine is great because sometimes the mind just isn't functioning, and you just need to do your regular things!

Tarana said...

Agree with you Laura! It's hard for me to ignore messes sometimes, but I think about how my little guy is growing up so fast :)

Tarana said...

Glad you liked it, I can understand how it's applicable to single parents too - good point!

Mama MKDPR said...

Fantastic tips. It's a tough job but I think these ideas can make it a little easier.


Charlotte @ Educating Elsa said...

Sometimes I am guilty of taking being a SAHM for granted and I don't make the most of the days. I definitely need to get back into a proper routine and start trying to fit more in.

Tarana said...

Thanks, glad you liked the post!

Tarana said...

Yes, routine helps a lot in getting everything done, and making time for yourself!

Gym Bunny Mummy said...

I'm a work from home mum so I have to be really organised otherwise everything just ends up in a mess! Great post #ShareWithMe

Carolyn Lefournour said...

Some great tips, I definitely think the best thing about being a SAHM is watching your child grow and learn every day and seeing all those 'firsts' that you'd miss if working. I think I might go for a quick nap today while my daughter naps! #sharewithme


Tarana said...

Agree, being organised is the trick!

Let's Talk Mommy said...

Love your tips as always and this is great!!! Works for a working from home mom too! lol Thank you ever so much for linking up to Share With Me #sharewithme

Chris Carter said...

Excellent advice, Tarana. Your insights are so wise, and I agree with these tips SO much!! It's a hard job, and the transition can be difficult.

Lisa @ The Golden Spoons said...

Toughest job in the world (IMO), but these are some great tips!

Kristi - Finding Ninee said...

Awesome advice! Congratulations on being featured in the SAHM guide!!!

Louise George said...

These are fab tips and would definitely agree with all of them. Making sure you make time to have fun with the kids is definitely a top one for me - it can be so easy to get bogged down in the little things sometimes. Grabbing power naps when you can is also good - I have been known to pop the TV on and have a brief doze on the sofa while the kids watch TV (it's known as a CBeebies snooze in our house and those 15 minutes or so can make a world of difference).

Tarana said...

I really wish I could take a power nap, but I'm simply incapable!

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