Five things new Moms need not worry about

Soon after you have a baby, it creeps on you. The worry. The anxiety. The fear. You think so many times before making even the smallest decision, like whether to let the baby sleep or burp them.

It's not that you're doing anything wrong by worrying about every little thing. But if you're a new mom, and especially a first time mom, I just want to put a hand on your shoulder ask you to relax a bit. The worrying in itself isn't a bad thing, because your concern helps you give the best care to your child. But too much of worrying can be problem. Add to that your sleep deprived state, and it could be a downward spiral into anxiety and depression.

A great guide to what you should, and should not worry about when you have a baby. Good tips for new moms!

Here are five things you as a new mom need not lose that precious sleep over:

1. Milestones

The first time your baby rolls over, or gets their first tooth are big moments for you to celebrate. But a lot of moms worry about when their babies start sitting up or crawling based on what they've heard or seen among friends. The thing to remember is that milestones given by websites and even the chart at your doctor's office are just markers of when to expect things to happen.

There's always a window when babies are expected to reach these milestones. And they can vary widely, as any good doctor will tell you. My son had his first tooth at nine months, later than most, but it never worried me because, have you seen an adult without teeth?! But he started speaking earlier, and so this just goes on to show that milestones don't have to hit exactly when everyone says they should.

Yes, after a certain point, it may be something to discuss with your doctor. Refer to the right sources, see a good doctor, and just enjoy the moment because babies do grow up fast.

2. Sleep

As with milestones, the expected number of hours a baby needs to sleep also has a window. Not every baby will sleep for twelve hours at a stretch. Similarly, every baby will not need 16 hours of sleep a day. My son always seemed to be content with about an hour less than the recommended hours of sleep for his age. This was even after he had the most comfortable sleep conditions. He's still the same!

It's important to look at your baby and decide if they need more sleep. If they seem happy and rested, there's nothing to worry about, but give them enough opportunities to nap. Some babies sleep fewer hours at night, but will take naps throughout the day.

3. Feeding

The first thing that worries most moms is whether they will be able to successfully breastfeed. It usually works out, and sometimes it doesn't. You may have to supplement with formula. Don't feel guilty as long as your baby is healthy and thriving.

The other thing that moms seem to worry about is how much their baby should be having at each feeding, and how often. Let your baby decide! Feeding should be done on demand, especially considering that babies go through growth spurts. There is no magic quantity that they should be consuming, unless they show other worrying symptoms such as lethargy or loss of weight.

The last thing you want to do is measure up to the ml. or oz. at every feeding. Babies feed to fill their stomachs, and you can count of them to do that. For instance, smaller babies may have less at each feeding, and feed more frequently.

4. Growth charts

I have never liked standard growth charts for babies. They rarely take into account factors such as genetics, birth weight, and mode of feeding. For instance, there is a separate chart for babies who are breastfed, and you'll rarely find that in your doctor's office. Some babies are shorter than average, while some are chubby. It's because there are different types of the people in the world, and they begin their lives as babies! I agree that monitoring your baby's weight, especially during the first year, is important. But don't let the charts bother you if your baby has a good appetite, and is steadily growing.

5. Weaning

Unless you are going the baby led weaning (BLW) route, there are a hundred things that would worry you in the weaning or starting solids phase. The most important of which is when do you start? Some people swear by four months, while others wait until much later. The WHO recommendation is to wait for a minimum of six months before you start weaning, especially if your child is getting enough nutrition from milk. The beginning phase is mostly about exploring rather than nutrition anyway.

Your baby is probably start 'asking' for food they see you eating, or mimic eating. Start slow, and with one food at a time. Babies have sensitive stomachs not used to digesting non-liquids. So, take it easy and start with small quantities.

Again, you will hear other mothers talk about how much their babies are eating, and then worry that they aren't feeding them enough. Don't let that bother you if your baby is eating differently. Until they turn one, most babies will go through phases of eating well, and even rejecting food. It's not a concern if they are growing and healthy.

I'm not an expert, but I am a mom who believes in following my instincts. And that's what you should draw upon when it comes to your baby. Do keep an eye on the recommendations and charts, but only as a reference. Ultimately, you know your baby best, and if something doesn't seem right, don't hesitate to speak with a medical professional.

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