Let's not be perfect. Let's just be moms.

The question surprised me. It was my first interview as a 'mummy blogger' and it came out of the blue. "How do you feel about being different from other glamorous mom bloggers?" It caught me off guard. Was I supposed to be glamorous as a mom blogger or even as a mom? Needless to say, that interview was a disaster with the interviewer's whole premise out of place.

I thought being a mom and writing about it was about keeping it real. About showing how things can get tough, about how there are days where you barely have time to look at yourself in the mirror. Glamour has nothing to do with parenting. Yet, I ruminated on that question over time.

And I realized that it's not just glamour that has come to associate itself with parenting, but the overall idea of looking perfect after having kids.

Let's just accept motherhood with all its imperfections.

We are all in awe of celebrities who look oh-so-good soon after walking out of the hospital. And that becomes our aspiration of what moms should look like after having babies.

What we don't see is the team of nannies, dietitians, hair stylists, beauticians, and stylists who have worked hard so you see exactly what you see.

Now, think of an average mom. The truth about bringing home a baby is that you're only surrounded by nappies, burp clothes, and regurgitated milk. Forget lipstick, you don't even want to be near a hair dryer as long as you can get some sleep.

And yet the world continues to expect you to bounce back from a life changing event with no physical transformation. There is an emphasis placed on getting back to your 'pre-baby body', as if, you should not be allowed to accept that growing a baby in your womb and giving birth should change you in any way.

More so, you have to do it perfectly. With beautifully coordinated outfits, flawless make up, and a quiet baby in the pram.

I don't mean to speak out against moms who work out to get in shape. Every woman has a right to decide what she wants to look like. But that freedom should extend to those of us who don't want to be made up. We are the moms who have accepted our muffin top in exchange for a morning lie in.

For, behind every perfect mom, is a sacrifice. A cost. It could involve leaving home early to hit the gym, or a couple of extra hours at the salon. It could mean extra expenditure on childcare. It's a choice. But let's not make it a standard.

Every mother cannot look perfect and should not be expected to. Let's just accept moms (and mom bloggers!) for all that they do to raise their families, regardless of whether they fit a skewed view of beauty. For me, every mother is beautiful - muffin top, sagging boobs, messy hair, and all.

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